7 Qualities of a Feminine Leader

Written By Satwinder Isser

S.Kaur helps new and seasoned professionals master-level facilitation, Healing and coaching skills so that they can respond more powerfully to the issues their clients bring to them.

May 12, 2020

Sisters,

Before we get to know the 7 Qualities of a Feminine Leader, let’s discuss what feminine leadership exactly is.

What is feminine?

A little backstory of how I found the information regarding the feminine when I visited, paid, enrolled in some feminine based programs, discussions, and workshops as a Brown woman.

The idea of the feminine was so beautiful and somewhere I felt connected to the feminine because of my roots from a Hindu- Sikh family. Both the religions have strong beliefs on feminine energy, and from childhood, we just knew what this energy is all about.

But when I saw how the feminine leaders looked like in the coaching, sector, I felt so disconnected with what was being shown as feminine.

White, Slim, young, woman sitting in yoga poses, or taking a dip into the water naked showing off their bodies. Nice photoshoots, with branding to show off their feminine side.

As a matter of fact, I went all into that gaze. I started to feel that I don’t belong or feminine energy is further away from me.

After few years of self-discovery, connecting with my own roots, knowing the feminine energy all become so clear.

The feminine energy is not what you might see in the photoshoots of a coach, selling wild woman programs, courses, but it’s something totally opposite.

Feminine energy is not to show yourself as a strong wild woman but to embrace every emotions and feeling which runs within you.

Feminine leadership is not hyper-masculine which we do see these days in the coaching world.

Start Your day right!!

Create an altar for you, your family, community, for the world. A priestess not only think about herself but for others, it comes naturally to her. In these tough times, this Altar can be a place for you to call in the energies, set your intentions, light a lamp, a candle.

Meditate:

Meditation can be tricky in these difficult times, so if you find it difficult to meditate, You can use visualization techniques which can be very soothing to the soul in distress.

Dancing on the soft tunes can be a very powerful way to meditate also. So find your own unique way to meditate.

Being with what is:

Not exaggerate or go into denial about the seriousness of this situation. Embracing reality is the most powerful practice of a priestess, the wise woman. There should not be any resistance to embrace the reality of this situation. Take the command on what you can do, how you can navigate through this.

Read and inform yourself about it from credible sources only. Watch news only one time a day to keep yourself informed.

Bring your family members, to know the reality and help them embrace this reality and let them help you also to navigate this.

#nobypassing

A wise woman, a priestess don’t bury her emotions and feelings. She allows herself to feel what she is feeling but do not get attached to those feelings.

I have learnt from my teachers to not direct horror stories of the future in the mind, if the mind wants to work and wants to make stories, at least direct the mind to make some good stories, so that you can at least enjoy watching those. What I mean is not to have those feelings send you in fear of the future.

Allow the emotions and feelings to come as well as go, just like the waves of emotions.

What do you do? You can talk to your friends, family over the phone, video call so that you know they are safe.

TIP:

Bring your awareness to your heart centre, and focus on your breathing. You can put your hand on your chest and experience the moving of your chest while inhaling and exhaling.

With every inhale count 5 seconds, and every exhales count 5 seconds, find your rhythm while focusing on your heart centre and your breath.

Take this practice one step further and feel about someone or something that you appreciate, love. Do this practice before you connect with someone, or before you talk to someone.

Nature therapy:

We all are stuck at home, in some places like ours its the time of spring, the time we waited for almost 6 months. But now we are in times, that we can not go out.

But who says mother nature can not soothe us, even if we are home? Bring the blessings of mother nature, inside your house, flowers, plants, more flowers. Doing so bring in the feminine ways of soothing, relaxing like playing music, doing art and light candles during dinner.

Intentions:

Hold a focused, positive intention for health and wellbeing for you, your family, your community and all beings. When a priestess holds an intention for the well being of hers, she is very focused and knows what she is doing.

Remember you will not be able to do everything and you will need to be very discerning about actions that you need to take. Remember to source your doing from the ground of being, not from panic or pressure. Be very clear about what is yours to do in the midst of this crisis.

Boundary setting will be important for you during this time as well. Your healthy No comes from having a strong YES to something else that is more important for you.

Clarity:

Setting Boundaries:

We all know and understand social distancing, how it is very important to survive in this pandemic. There are other areas in your life, business, and/or work that you might need to create boundaries for yourself, your clients, your loved ones so that they can also feel safe.

Boundary setting will be important for you during this time. Your healthy No comes from having a strong YES to something else that is more important for you.

Playfulness:

It might sound difficult but it is very important to bring the playfulness in your daily lives. The Maiden archetype is the best example of bringing playfulness, enjoyment, in your lives. When the moments of laughter comes, enjoy them. Look for creative opportunities in the midst of the breakdowns.

Embracing the mystery:

Oh, how a wise woman love to embrace the mystery of things. Rest into the Great Mystery and know that you are held and beloved on this earth. Grow more comfortable with the uncertainty and learn to watch around the edges for what is trying to emerge.

Be Willing to let things go:

The things that must pass away and make space for the new that is trying to arise in time. Be okay with the change happening around us. Hold space for others as they navigate this path.

Rituals for healing:

Use ritual as a way to ground and settle your unconscious. You might burn sage in your home and ask mother sage, incense, herbs to keep the energy in your space clear and full of love. Create your own rituals for healing, love, grief.

As a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister, and many other relations I have made through my human journey, I know and understand how difficult is to navigate these uncertain, unsafe days of our lives. I am holding space for each and every one of you, and sending you all my love. Be safe and let your inner compass guide you to navigate this with ease and safety.