1. Be Transparent & Honest!!

One of the most important and powerful traits of a strong, grounded, and transformational leader is to be transparent and honest with their clients and community. Now is the time not to dim your voice. Share with your community how you are feeling, what is going on within your own inner world, how it is impacting you as a person. Your community, your clients are going to feel more connected to you. But along with sharing your feelings, your emotions a transformational leader know how to work around some difficult emotions, feelings. A transformational leader does no bypass or finds band-aid to the wounds just to show that nothing affects you as you are super spiritual. A breakthrough and transformational leader can show the community the ways of handling emotions, feelings in the most sacred way.

2.#NoSpiritualFukery #NoSpiritualBypassing

People who know me, know that I talk about many such topics which most are not speaking about in the spiritual community. Issues like Racism, spiritual bypassing, within our love and light community and more. 

To be a transformational leader it is very important to NOT do any such things as spiritual bypassing. 

This is not the time to play with “love and light” band-aid with your clients or community. It’s time to honour the shadows, fears and the feelings of your clients, and talk about them. 

3. Time to go deeper, Doing your own Inner work!!

What I have known in my life, is that during any kind of challenging times, is only through doing your own inner work. 

I share a story with my students and want to share that one with you here: 

Once upon a time, there was a guru in India, in Punjab, the Kirtan ( holy hymns) was just ended and people of the village started to take his blessings, One mother requested guru jee, to make her son understand to not eat too many sweets. Guru jee said: Can you pls come back after 40 days? 

The mother was surprised but said okay I will come. So 40 days passed and again after the evening Kirtan, she went to guru jee and requested the same: 

Guru jee, pls make my son understand not to eat too many sweets. 

Guru jee called the son and explained him gently not to do so. The son was an admirer of Guru jee so he agreed not to eat too many sweets. 

The mother was confused, so she asked Guru Jee. “Guru Jee, this was a small talk which you could have done 40 days ago. So why did you want me to wait for 40 days and then come back? What is the significance of this?

So Guru jee started laughing and then said ” Bibi Jee, I wanted to make sure that I quit the habit of eating too many sweets before I tell your son not to do so” 

So to help your clients it is very important to have your own inner work done, to know how to work on soul level, how to manage energies, how to work with shadow, archetypes, energy portals, generational imprints. That is when you will be able to work with your clients deeply and with integrity. 

4. Opportunism vs being of support

Which side are you on? Truthfully I have seen, so many entrepreneurs start to take advantage of any kind of challenge people are facing, and same with this pandemic. I am not against selling and growing your business but know that your clients are human, they have feelings, they have emotions and on top of all this, they are smart!! 

They can know when someone is trying to take advantage of them, their circumstances or when someone is genuinely offering support. 

There are also those entrepreneurs who are offering sales, from their heart and that is what every entrepreneur’s intentions should be. If you have a product or service, which might help your clients in any of the difficult times, offer it soulfully.

5. Lead By Example

 Most of us, become coaches and then learn some deep healing processes to help our clients. We become who we are today, because of a deep calling. The one and the most powerful way to inspire, encourage others is to lead them by example. This is the most essential quality of an effective, transformational leader. 

 Be a model for how to show up and who to be in the world. At this moment in history, we need leaders who are in integrity, who are authentic, who show kindness, who model grace & generosity.

Be that Leader!! 

Show your community how to support during these times, encourage them to be home, how to talk to kids about all this, how to spend time, what they can do in their free time, and so much more… 

6. Embracing the pause!!

This week I was coaching a client, who was very upset with herself and was about to quit from her business. She is working full time in the health care sector, have 5 kids. She has no time and she was very upset because she now can not do what she was planning to do.

During the coaching session, I heard her saying on repeat “what she can not do” So I helped her bring her focus on “What she can do” and then to ” how she can do that”

The challenge when we went deep, was not that she is not able to do what she wanted to or she didn’t have time, but it was that she was not okay with this pause we are all in.

See the nature has its own rhythm, and so does we. But when we do not have control over, what is going on, then it is very important to know how to embrace change.

Right now we are in a very delicate situation worldwide, and many entrepreneurs are struggling due to this, but as soon as you will become okay with this, you will see that everything will fall into place for you.

Right now people are losing their lives, and we need to focus on supporting time, even if it’s by staying home and embracing this pause.

7. Be Flexible

This is one of the powerful traits of the feminine leadership, that she works focused on feelings, emotions, love, shadows. Knowing what the circumstances divine feminine knows how to hold the container for others. Beyond the systems, the calender’s, the strategies, the protocols…

Divine feminine leaders know how to be available for the community, and how to be of more service during these times.

As an entrepreneur, it’s about time to start running your business with divine feminine principles more.

Wishing you all so much love, and a very safe journey during these difficult time. Hope you all stay and taking care of yourself, your loved ones, and your community.

In recent years, more people have entered the world of life coaching.

Being self-employed has lots of benefits such as being your own boss, making your own schedule, choosing your clients and setting your fee.

Coaching is a multi-billion dollar industry.

And it seems everyone wants to be a coach these days.  but can anyone be a coach?

The answer is yes anyone can learn to be a coach as well as no.

It’s a yes if:

• You’re willing to learn how to be a good coach
• Learn to apply what you learn through hundreds of hours of sessions with clients.

It’s no if :

• you happen to think that coaching is just about asking a bunch of questions and hoping your client comes up with the solution himself.
• It’s also no if you think that coaching is about telling your client what to do.

The truth is,  there are so many courses out there to become a life coach but to become a masterful transformational coach it requires a range of skills and attributes. Today we are going to discuss a few of these skills you need to become a transformational coach and stand out from the crowd.

Here are the personality traits of a breakthrough and transformational coach:

These personality traits will tell you if coaching is something that will come naturally to you or not, If you don’t have all of these attributes, don’t worry. 🙂 We at She Rise Academy are dedicated to helping women develop these traits. 

Remember, wise coaches, are made not born.

Sisters, 

There is a secret which from the older times, wise women have known, embraced and bring it forward. Her ability to adapt because she understands the rhythm of nature. She knows whatever takes birth, has to die one day, and what we plant, will grow in time one day as well. She is fully aware of the nature of change. 

A wise woman knows and understands the secret that if there is light, there is the shadow if the light is powerful so does the shadow.

She understands where there is happiness, there is sorrow as well. She knows and understands that this universe is based on the inclusion and not ignorance. 

She knows that life is not a plain, simple line. She knows and understands that there are curves, broken parts, and possibilities. 

She knows that opposite exists and she knows this secret of being okay with this existence which might be uncomfortable, uneasy, full of fear, uncertainty. 

Because she knows that opposite exists, she is not scared of it. She is not scared because she knows that opposite exists. 

She has the key to unlock this secret, and now more than ever we need this key to support our communities, clients and this world we live in. 

A wise woman has the ability to see, experience, feel, accept and hold seemingly opposing forces all at once.

Now is a great time to tap into the secrets of a wise woman and learn to embrace and hold the light as well the shadow. 

Sisters, 

Life is many things at a time, joy, grief, life, death, loneliness, togetherness, and so on.. 

All of this mismatch makes this life beautiful, unique and something to learn from and a wise woman knows and understand this. 

Suffering happens when we do not embrace the fact that life comes with change, every moment is different than the previous one, nothing is same. 

Suffering happens when we do not know how to be okay with the change. When we live in the illusions and not in reality. 

The Wise Women secret is to live life with being present, embracing the change, being okay to have speed and as well being okay to pause when it is needed. 

She knows and understands when something needed to let go,

She knows and understands when something needed to be birthed

She knows and understands when to start and when to stop. 

She works with the rhythm of nature. She understands the seasons within her and around her.

A WISE WOMAN: 

• She who holds seeming opposites without contradiction!!
• Cut away what no longer serves, or allow it to dissolve

• See patterns in the chaos, piercing through confusion

• Draw upon all sources of knowing whether conventional or not

• Stay with the not-knowing, the Mystery, if that is what is called for

She has the ability to stand on the crossroads. She can work through complexity, and become a bridge between the extreme divergent people, ideas, communities, to create something new. She knows the energetics of new and old things. 

The question to Journal: 

How can you connect with your own wise woman hidden within you? What she is teaching you? What will she do if she is in your circumstance? 

Sisters, 

Sisters,

these are uncertain time all over the globe. People are more in need to support, sisterhood, a space to share their feelings and emotions.

It’s being 4 weeks now, that most of us are in our homes and holding space for our communities, and countries.

Over the last few weeks, I have been reached out by many coaches, and healers, on what they should be doing, focusing on with their clients so that they can support them in these challenging times.

As we navigate these unique and challenging times in our history there are certain areas you can focus on with your clients:

1. Ask 

This is the practice that is needed more than ever before. Ask your clients what do they need right now. How you can help and support them. When the practice of asking happens, it opens the door for your client to share their needs.

2. Set New Goals

During these times, when there is so much happening in the world, people tend to lose their focus, and that is when they really really need a coach. The need not just someone but a coach who knows how to keep them focused, encouraged and in faith.

The one thing I am doing with my clients is to encourage them to set up new goals. It is important so that they can reaffirm, re-establish their vision. It is the time to go through on their why’s, their purpose of doing what they are doing, and letting them re-visit the vision they have established when they first started.

Your clients may be feeling a little disheartened at the moment. Perhaps the goals they had set for themselves and were so enthusiastic about having lost a little meaning.

Perhaps they are not making the progress, that they want to make or they see our current situation as an insurmountable obstacle between them and the achievement of their goals.

As a coach, it’s important that you use a really robust goal-setting process, like the one we share at the She Rise Academy to reignite their passion and their vision.

Along in your coaching, when you help them get clear on what they want, you will realize that in these challenging times, you as a coach need to re-frame their goals. You might need to re-assess and adjust the process and the tactics to keep your clients on track.

3. Hold Space

In these times of turmoil and crisis, coaches need to show the presence that deeply supports the well-being of people and communities.

Your clients need you more than ever, they need you to hold space for them so that they can share their fears, their feelings and emotions. More than ever, they need you to listen to them.

Now more than ever are people needed who themselves are deeply grounded and connected to a source of higher intelligence, and who desire to use their energy and inner being to support others through crisis or upheaval. Just like we train our coaches in She Rise Academy so that they know and understand the deeper meaning of holding space.

4. Inner and Outer Blocks/Healing

I have learnt one thing during my early years of coaching practice that behavioural coaching is not enough for a deep transformation.

To be transformed needs a breakthrough, and breakthrough happens when we work with our clients on a much deeper level.  It includes the work Mind, Body, Soul and Spirit.

In these times, there are lots of emotions, feelings, that might be a reason to hold them back from the success they desire.

Now more than ever is the right time for your clients to be taking key, strategic action towards their goals. To help them to do that you’ll want to help them to identify and then get rid of any of those self-sabotaging beliefs, habits or strategies.

That is why you need healing tools in your coaching toolkit. You can use any healing skills you might have, to help your clients.

By reframing and removing negative emotions, limiting decisions and limiting beliefs you’ll be helping your clients to actually clear the baggage of the past and to create and forge new habits and behaviours that will support them now and in the future.

Help your clients, to understand the new way of thinking, and feelings, you are helping them move forward.

5. Support and Accountability

If you are a coach who believes in the power of accountability, now is the time to Step up in your role as an accountability partner.

You might need to adjust the work you give to your clients, in between the calls, as now the daily routine for them might have changed.

One thing I do not take for granted is accountability.

Now is also the time that you need to be giving your clients that higher level of support, knowledge and accountability so that they resist the temptation to fall off track or to throw in the towel. There might be times when your client might feel disempowered, discouraged, and if you keep your accountability game up, I can assure that this will help them, to keep on track and overcome any roadblocks.